Love and marriage is a beautiful event; it’s the culmination of time spent together, working towards a common goal, and wanting to be with someone for all of your days. Two people uniting to build their piece in the world is unlike anything else and we always wish the happy couple well, that their years be filled with smiles, joy, and happy memories. Statistically speaking, though, not every marriage will work out and couples will need to file for divorce, contacting Denver family law attorneys to mediate the settlement and ideally have a clean and easy separation.
Divorce, especially separating assets of the couple, can quickly become problematic and tensions, as well as tempers, can flare and rise sky high. Some individuals set out with a scorched earth policy: don’t let the other spouse have anything to their name when the divorce smoke clears. Others will try and hide assets in an effort to reduce the amount of money, or child support, they may need to pay. For Denver family law attorneys, this can be a nightmare. An easy way to get around it, however, is the introduction of a prenuptial agreement before the marriage happens.
A prenup essentially breaks down who has what assets and who will get what in the event of a divorce – it makes the process easier on everyone. The big drawback to prenups is the emotional hit people take. Imagine the love of your life telling you that they want to have a backup plan in case things go south. You had your whole life planned out with them, only to find out that they don’t trust you as deeply. This can be a massive shock to people. It’s even led to some marriages being called off. However, prenups are a good thing to have, even if it seems as if the other person doesn’t trust you, because it’s better to have it and not need it, rather than trudge through divorce and asset splitting without it.
We understand the emotional bomb dropping that is saying you want to sign a prenup and as such, we’ve compiled a quick list of tips to make breaking the news a bit easier so that you don’t end up calling the whole wedding off.
Be delicate, you’re likely about to shake someone’s entire worldview and people, cognitively speaking, do not like change & information that rocks their beliefs. They probably haven’t thought too much about potential bad times of the marriage, so try to be kind.
Reassure them that you love them, otherwise they’re going to think you’re treating this only as a business transaction and take all of the love from the relationship. They’re probably going to jump to the conclusion that you don’t love them if you’re worried about a prenup.
Make sure you choose the right time to discuss things, because you don’t want to make a bad day worse, nor do you want to completely ruin a good day you’ve spent together.
Be receptive to their emotions, thoughts, and concerns about the prenup and the future. Communication is key in relationships and this is a big conversation to have. Remember, it isn’t you vs. your significant other, it’s you two versus a problem and you’re going to solve it together.
If you’re considering a prenup before getting married, call our offices to speak an expert Denver family law attorney so that we can assist you in drafting it and offer more insight into how to best discuss it with your partner. Contact us now for more information.